You may want to hang out in COPA and talk to actual Cirrus long time employees some
You can fly a Cirrus much deeper into a stall than a Diamond and maintain control. But when it lets go; it is vicious and fast. A Diamond on the other hand is much more benign on the stall; and with the high aspect wings has a much smaller area of reverse command. All of which contribute to wonderful airplane handling and feeling with gentle stall characteristics of any plane with light wing loading. Cirrus has 500lbs greater MTOW on only 2 sqr more feet of wing loading. The result, Cirrus is a travel plane, super stable as an IR platform, low aspect wings means it handles winds and turbulence much better.
Here is some slightly dated information on SR20 explaining the effect of the split wings from AOPA: https://www.aopa.org/go-fly/aircraft-an ... irrus-sr20
No idea where you get the idea that stall/spin is a major contributor to Cirrus accidents.
Lastly, in terms of comparison to six seat planes like the Bo, Cirrus is no different. You want to be safe in a Mooney or a Bonanza? You fly a set profile. Same thing in Cirrus.
Really only slow draggy planes; such a C172/182 are really forgiving of the weekend warrior who is not paying attention to profile. The first time I was in a Diamond DA-40 (one of only a few flights in one); the pilot owner was showing me slow flight and stalled the plane to the point of a wing drop. He tried to pick the wing ailerons instead of rudder and we were lucky we did not enter a spin (I hit the stick forward to unload the wing as /i was taught).
Cirrus is a travel plane. The trim does take some practice to get used too. You also learn to get the feel of the plane from the seat of your pants instead of your hand. It really is a different way to fly. At the end of the day, you want to punch holes in the sky? Get a DA-40 or some other fun plane to fly. If you want to go low and slow? Get a Cessna 172/182. If you want to travel? Get a Bonanza or a Cirrus. If you want efficiency? Go for Mooney.
Every plane is a compromise, the goal is to find a plane which has the right set of compromises for you.
Also, where in Boston? I am based out of 6B6 (but live closer to KBED).